Your beliefs color your experience in a unique way, be it negatively or positively. They let you see some aspects of the reality and block others from your awareness.
If you see the world as a place were only hard working people succeed, you will only become aware of ways to succeed which involve a lot of hard work. Other opportunities which would bring you success with little or no hard work will not be shown to you simply because of your current set of beliefs.
Everything just is. No matter how angry you are at someone or how much you like something, you should understand that everything is neutral. You put a label on the experience and you assess whether it was pleasant, bad, good, happy and so on. The experience, be it someone getting into an accident or you succeeding at something is just an experience. When you really understand this, you will be able to recognise some of the beliefs that you hold. You will also feel more freedom because you will understand that you don’t have to react in a way that everyone else does when something happens.
When you understand that everything just is, you will start feeling love for this world because of its fairness. You can interpret the world however you want to because there’s no single valid interpretation of it. So if you have a bad job, it doesn’t mean anything. If you are single – it doesn’t mean anything. I’m not saying that you will like such situations, but you don’t have to put any label on them no matter how they are perceived by the society. Putting labels on your experiences inhibits you because labels prevent you from seeing the world as it is.
Your dislikes show your suppressed emotions. When someone becomes angry at you, you don’t have to become angry at them. The event is neutral unless you look at it through your beliefs and thus interpret it in a certain way. When your experience involves other people, you should keep in mind that however they react to you it’s never about you – it’s about them. We project our own guilts, disappointments and fears onto other people and then react to them.
The reason you project your negative emotions to others is because you store in yourself some kind of energy that you are afraid or unwilling to let out. That could be anger, for example. If you were taught that it’s bad to show your emotions, you will quite naturally store all the anger inside you.
If you don’t believe in your own health, then this anger will manifest as some kind of disease. If, however, you believe that you are a healthy person, then you will project your anger to other people, most likely you will project anger to a group of people who have something in common, like people of the same country or race. Those people won’t get sick or anything like it, since you cannot really influence them this way, but you will react to them with anger and will not even understand why you act this way, you will simply dislike them.
To stop reacting to people this way you have to observe yourself and notice what kind of emotions you store in yourself. Once you find the emotions that you were unwilling to let out, you should find some kind of outlet to them. It’s better to choose your own outlet, be it sports, writing or something else, then to let your emotions manifest in a way that is unexpected and unpleasant.
Your health depends on your beliefs. Your body is constantly influenced by your limiting beliefs. When you change your beliefs, you alter your body in some way. If you believe that you are a healthy person, then you either don’t get sick at all or suffer from very minor health issues, such as a headache or a cold. If, however, you believe that you are a sickly person, you will often visit doctors and use all sorts of medications.
Medications only work if you believe they will work. It’s your own power that does the work, projected into the drugs. If you believe that drugs will heal you, they will. I’m not suggesting though that you should discontinue taking them if you still believe that they help you. But when you fully believe that it’s your own power that does the work, you will no longer need any medications.
Drugs are only temporary solution to your illness. The disease will change forms and will manifest in different parts of your body until you understand the cause of it. The cause is likely to be an unexpressed emotion or a limiting belief. Once the cause is gone, you will no longer get sick.
If you have a firm belief that your body is healthy, then you are helping it to keep itself healthy. But you don’t have to have any beliefs about your body at all for it to work properly. Your body knows how to heal itself and works much better than any medicine ever invented, but if you hinder it’s processes with your limiting beliefs, then it will not be able to heal itself properly.
Your core beliefs cause your consistent experience. The reason why every day you seem to experience mainly the same events is because of your core beliefs. They make your life consistent and they determine your daily moods. If, for example, you think that the world is unfair, every day you will experience some event(s) that will prove you this to be the case. You will then feel frustrated and unhappy and this will last until you change your beliefs.
Similar beliefs attract each other and form into clusters of beliefs which are held by core beliefs. Once the core belief is gone, your experience will drastically change. Core beliefs, however, are the hardest to spot because you seem to look through them at the world without realising that your beliefs make you see the world in a certain way. Such beliefs are very general beliefs, such as:
“I will never succeed”
“The world is a dangerous place”
“Life is hard”
“People are selfish”
“I am an unworthy person”
Eliminate any of such beliefs and your life will completely change.
How to see the real world
Eliminate limiting beliefs. As long as you hold a certain limiting belief about something, you will keep seeing it in a different way than what it really is. If, for example, you think that you will always stay single, you will, unless you get rid of this belief. So although the world seems to prove that your belief is correct, it only does so because your beliefs don’t allow you to see the world in a different light.
Be present and don’t judge. When you look at some object, try not to judge it against your previous experiences or opinions. Even if you think that the object is neutral, it’s still colored by your perceptions about it and you make certain assumptions that are usually false. So if you want to see the object as it really is, you have to stop labelling it.
When you look at a table, for example, don’t classify it as a table in your mind. Just let it be and observe it. Try to see beyond the names and labels. If you do this exercise consistently, you will begin to see the objects in their own light and not through your own interpretations. This will expand your awareness greatly.
Desire to see things as they are. If you find it hard to get rid of your opinions about things, simply wish to see things in their own light. If you really want to experience the world as it really is, you will with time. Desire is all you need. When you ask it is always answered, but if you don’t expect to be answered, you will not become aware of the answer. So desire to see the world as it is and sooner or later you will.
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Everything depends on what you believe, that is true. But sometimes it’s hard to change beliefs. You gave a very useful advice and I read the limiting beliefs article that you linked too. Great content. Thank you for all you do.
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This is quite a fascinating fact that I have discovered for myself quite a while back as well.
The reason this works is because our beliefs determine how we predict the future to be if we take a certain type of action in the present. These predictions in turn determine what we do in the present and thus also determine the results that we get in the future.
For example, if you are writing a blog post, you have no way of telling how many people your blog post is going to benefit, but you can believe that it will benefit many – and so put in the effort required into writing. As you write a very detailed quality blog post, chances are that it will actually help more people than a post which you would have written had you believed that the work you do would not benefit other people in any way.
So simply by adopting a belief of a better future we are actually pushing ourselves into doing the actions necessary in the present in order to make that future our reality.
Exactly. Thank you for your contribution, Martin. What a great reply!